There’s a lot to love about dating apps, but using them to find everlasting love can sometimes be a slog. You have to construct the perfect profile; swipe until your wrist falls off; churn out witty opening lines; go on first dates that turn out to be total duds.
That’s Greta Tufvesson and Nikki Lewis’ pitch for why guys should use their buzzy bespoke matchmaking company, The Bevy, instead (provided they can afford the membership fee, which reportedly starts at a *Secret Lives of the Super Rich narrator voice* whopping $25,000).
“Swiping and chatting online can feel like a full-time, often futile job,” Tufvesson says. “Much like you won’t find your next C-Level exec on Craigslist, you’re probably not going to find the quality you’re looking for online. Our strategy is proactive, efficient and effective. Your time is valuable and you can only be in one place at one time. Hiring a professional gives you far more opportunities to streamline arguably the most important decision of your life.”
The Bevy’s hand-selected clients meet with Tufvesson and Lewis to hash out what they’re looking for in a partner; from there, the matchmakers get to work pairing them with other smart, successful singles in their circle. You know that triumphant feeling of successfully setting up two friends? Tufvesson and Lewis get to experience that all the time. But working as a professional matchmaker also has its downsides, like when your couples break up. Then there’s the weird stuff, like when wannabe clients demand to be set up with celebrities.
We asked Tufvesson and Lewis 20 questions about what it’s like to be a professional matchmaker in 2021. Here’s what they had to say.
How many marriages have you “created”?
Nikki: Roughly 35 marriages and counting!
Have you been to your clients’ weddings—and if so, what’s it like?
Greta: We have! We’ve even set up dear friends of ours, which makes the weddings (and the shout outs) even more special. It’s hard to describe how rewarding it is to see couples we’ve matched so happy, but it’s one of the biggest reasons we do what we do.
You mentioned some people don’t like to admit they met their partner through a matchmaker. Why do you think that is? And what kind of stories do they tell instead?
Nikki: Telling people you met through a matchmaker can be somewhat taboo. There are so many misconceptions surrounding the industry, so some of our clients prefer to keep it private. Some of our favorite couples keep it to themselves, and it’s really just a personal preference. Instead, they’ll tell their friends that they met through a friend, which in all honesty, isn’t far from the truth.
What’s the most common reason the men you work with are still single?
Greta: We work with some of the most eligible bachelors in the country who have no problem meeting women and dating on their own, but like many accomplished and busy men, they’ve reached a point in their lives where they value accomplishing certain goals—like relationships—more proactively, efficiently, and effectively. They tend to be very particular about who they’re looking to meet, and we are able to get them there quicker.
What’s the most common reason the women you work with are still single?
Nikki: Many of our female members are busy, too, and want to focus on quality versus quantity. Meeting a great man is no easy feat, and smart women will not settle for “happy enough.” Many of them refuse to engage in the game of app dating where you really don’t know what people’s intentions are. Our members prefer dating where selections are private and both parties are vetted.
How do you feel when two clients who seemed great for each other aren’t into it?
Nikki: We’ve learned that sometimes we can’t take things too personally. If we could predict fiery chemistry perfectly every time, we would be billionaires. We’re sometimes surprised and other times disappointed, but always use it as a learning experience to fine tune and do better on the next introduction.
How do you feel when a longer-term couple you “created” breaks up?
Nikki: We are so emotionally invested that it feels like our own breakup, which, in this business, can be dangerous. For our own mental sanity, we remain empathetic and act as a sounding board for our clients.
What’s the single hardest part of your job?
Greta: As aforementioned, the hardest part of this job is predicting chemistry. I have felt 110% positive about certain setups and I’m floored when the feedback was “Great person, just not for me.” People can be perfect for each other on paper but if the chemistry is not there, it will never work. It’s always hard for me to see but it just goes to show that it’s not a perfect science.
What’s the most outrageous request you’ve ever received from a client?
Nikki: We just got an email from a po